Today awesome blogger, Theresa Horton Miller, is stopping by with her delightful post “Mamma, I Need My Pants!” Enjoy!
Mamma, I Need My Pants!
It doesn’t matter how many times I offer my two-year-old daughter a solution, she has to try to figure it out all by herself before coming to the conclusion she needs help! With a little patience on my part, it’s just a matter of time before she asks for the help I am so eager to give her. It’s that innate will to assert her independence. Fortunately, she will grow out of this stage as we all do…or do we? Often, I see my own independent reflection in my two-year-old daughter, Alexa.
Alexa, at one point this morning, took off her pants because they “got sticky” and then remained in only a diaper, a shirt, and socks. When it was time to pick her older brother, Robby, up from school I told her we needed to put her pants back on. She replied, “I don’t need my pants.” I proceeded to try and convince her. “Let’s put your pants on first, then we’ll put your pretty shoes on.” “Oh! My shoes!!” she replied enthusiastically as she darted up the stairs to retrieve her “pretty shoes.” She bounced back down and proceeded to wiggle her little toes into the opening of her first shoe. I, once again, encouraged her to let me put her pants on first, then her shoes. “I don’t need my pants,” she declared as she pressed her heal down into the shoe. She successfully weaseled both feet into her shoes. They were on the right feet and they matched her shirt beautifully, just no pants.
Now I’m a believer in natural consequences so, I decided this was not a battle I was going to pick.
“Okay, Alexa, let’s put your coat on then.”
“I don’t need my pants or my coat.”
“Okay, let’s go.” We proceeded out the door.
In a high-pitched shrill, Alexa cried, “It’s windy.”
“Do you need your pants?”
“I need my coat.”
We put the coat on. “How about your pants?”
“I don’t need my pants.”
We proceeded outside again. She made it all the way to the car, stopped and cried in her high-pitched shrill, “It’s windy!”
“Do you need your pants?”
“I need my hat.”
I went and fetched her hat and put it on her. “How about your pants?”
“I don’t need my pants.”
She was happy.
Imagine my daughter in 26 degree weather in a coat, hat, socks,shoes, and a diaper. Half-way down the road I hear from behind me, in that high-pitched, drama-girl, shrill…
“Maaaamaa…I need my pants!”
Oh, the lessons I learn from my two-year-old daughter! Like Alexa I, too, can be as stubborn with my Heavenly Father as to say, “No thanks, Lord, I have what I need.” I persist determined to try to figure it out all by myself. Then when a circumstance overwhelms me I, too, cry out in a panic, “Looooord…I need you!” Or maybe just some pants…at any rate, I realize that what I need so desperately in a moments time is something that, just maybe, he’s been offering me all along. Oh, the love and patience of my Heavenly Father when I realize—my way has, once again, fallen short of my needs.
“And my God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:19
Theresa is a wife and mother of four from Wyoming. Her passions are primarily with her family and in writing – both of which reflect Jesus Christ, the author of and reason for each of these gifts. Theresa has coordinated her local MOPS group and started a second group in her community last year, which she currently coordinates. Theresa has written articles for her local MOPS newsletter, for church newsletters and has published in an on-line devotional magazine, Internet Café Devotions. Theresa authors Heavenly Glimpses blog, where she captures the heart of Christ through glimpses into the life of her children, her marriage, and a humbly inspired heart. Be sure to visit Theresa’s blog at www.heavenlyglimpses.blogspot.com.
27 thoughts on “Mamma, I Need My Pants!”
Penny, I commend you on finding a wonderful, upcoming author. What a great post! How true it is and what wisdom Theresa had in knowing which battle to choose in this instance. I would have caved and been the dictator, I fear. I’m not good at stretching the independence of my children or in this age, my grandchildren. I will be remembering this (I hope) for the next time my youngest grandchild pushes the boundaries. He’s four years old and has the mind and will of his father and nana before him.
Thank you so much for sharing this with the rest of us aspiring to become published so others can read whatever message God gives us to share!
Congratulations, Theresa on winning that particular battle of wills and for your honesty about how it parallells your own will as an adult.
Joyfully watching for more of your work,
Thank you, Joy, for stopping by! You have been such an encouragement to me and I thank you for that – and for encouraging Theresa. May God bless you, my sweet friend!
Joy, thank you so much for your kind words! They are a huge encouragement to me. Truly, there are days I cave, too. It’s all by God’s grace and hopefully I’m receiving it when I need it most.
I am praying the Lord’s blessing on your writing journey, too!
Oh so very true! To think we can do it all on our own, only to discover the “cold” consequences. Seems like a very wise handling of the situation and I loved reading it. 🙂 Thanks for sharing Penny and Theresa.
Casey, thanks for stopping by and for your sharing a comment! It’s very encouraging to me. Blessing to you!
Hi, Theresa! What a cute story about your 2 yo daughter. I have three 2 yo grandchildren (twins & a grandson – different families), so it really hit home. Our little girl twin is super stubborn, too. Keep writing about children. So much fun to read. Grammy Bonnie
Bonnie, I’m so glad to hear you can relate! Two-years-old is such a special age. It truly challenges us to the core as parents – and grandparents. Thanks for your encouraging words!
Kids are awesome. I teach the preschoolers at my church and I learn something new every week. Thanks, Theresa, for having a humble and willing heart, and esp for sharing with us.
Teresa, thank you so much for stopping by and leaving your encouraging comment!
First, thank you for giving a heads up about your friend’s post on your blog. What came to mind when I read your announcement on the loop was — Ecclesiastes 4:10. If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. J
Theresa, I chuckled throughout the story you shared about your precious two-year-old daughter, Alexa. Thank you for stepping out of the boat and following what God put on your heart. This is exactly what I needed to hear today. I was listening to a pastor last night and the Lord put on my heart, I will provide everything you need. Your lovely and timely post is a reminder that all I have to do is be willing to accept it.
Thanks again, ladies. Love you my sisters in Christ. 😉
Ginny, that is so awesome how God used this story to confirm something he had already placed on your heart. That moves me. Thank you for your kind words. I’m so glad you enjoyed reading it!
I loved this. I think you’re smart to choose your battles. My youngest is a Sr in high school now and I still try to choose my battles. Alexa sounds delightful!
Thank you, Jackie. I appreciate your kind words! Alexa is delightful. That strong personality comes out in a variety of delightful ways. I can only imagine what our conversations will be when she is in high school!
Thank you so much, Jackie, Ginny, Teresa, Bonnie, and Casey for stopping by my blog! I was thrilled to have Theresa as my guest blogger today and I’m so glad you enjoyed her post.
I hope you all have a blessed weekend!
Darling post. What wisdom you showed!
Thank you, Carole! I’m glad you enjoyed it!
Thank you, Penny and Theresa, for a wonderful lesson that also made me smile! Really enjoyed the Post. Blessings, Sue
Thanks, Sue! I’m glad the story made you smile. Blessings!
Thank you, Sue, for stopping by and for your encouragement! I hope you have a wonderful weekend.
Theresa — Thanks for sharing your story and for the wonderful analogy to your own life. Penny’s right: you are a gifted writer!
Penny — What a delightful addition to your already excellent blog. Thanks for making the web a better place.
Hi Amanda! It is so nice to see you here. Thanks for encouraging Theresa and for your sweet words about my blog. You have been such an encouragement to me and I appreciate you!
Thank you, Amanda, for your kind words. You are an encouragement to me! Blessings to you!
Theresa, I just got to read this and hysterical and an excellent point made. I am definitely like this two year-old. And, having a son and now a daughter…I definitely had it easy as far as a will battle with him, but not with her…she’ll be just like this;)
I love your ‘natural consequences’. That is wonderful wisdom.
And I love how this draws so close to His heart and infinite patience with us and our still two year-old tantrums and fits…what a faithful God:)
Abby, you are precious. Thank you for your kind and relational words! I’m so glad you stopped to visit!
p.s. Thank you Penny for hosting Theresa. You are a blessing!
Thank you, Abby, for stopping by and for your kind words!