8 things I want my daughters to know

As the mother of two daughters, there seems to be such a short time in which to teach them all the things they will need to know by the time they reach adulthood. Will I succeed in teaching them everything? No. But I can focus on teaching them these important truths.

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Focus on the things that are eternal. Material items, popularity, sports, homework, stress…these are things that will waste away. It is so easy to get caught up in the stresses of life – and there are many. But I hope you will remember that the only things that truly matter are those things that are eternal. Faith and trust in the Lord Jesus Christ is eternal. Sharing about Him to our loved ones and friends can plant the seeds for their eternal life.

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God’s love is unconditional. Ask just about anyone and they will tell you they have experienced a time when someone stopped liking/loving them because of something they did or said. In a world where love is fickle, God’s love is unconditional and never changes. Nothing you can do can make Him love you any more than He already does. And nothing you can do can make Him love you any less.

Romans 8 38-39

Jesus understands. He’s been there. Jesus knows and cares for every detail of our lives. He, too, has had a friend betray him. He has been on the receiving end of lies, has experienced loneliness, and has been tempted. But no matter who lets you down, there is One who never will. He promises NEVER to leave us nor forsake us.

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Where to find your value and self worth. It is so easy to attempt to find your self worth in others. That friend. That boyfriend. Your husband. Your parent. But your self worth comes only from One. If we garner our value from another human being, we will always be disappointed.

In our looks-obsessed culture, we could tend to think our value comes from our hairstyle, clothes, or whether our figure matches that on the front of a magazine. But our value does not come from people or from any of those things. Our value and our beauty comes from within. I have known far to too many women (and men!) who appear attractive on the outside, but are far from attractive on the inside. I hope that you will seek to be the girl God made you to be – one who has the love of Jesus within and who seeks to share it with others by the way she lives.

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Speaking of value, do you know how valuable you are to our Lord? He loves you so, so much. Enough to give His very life for you.

The value of prayer. How often do we say, “Well, the only thing we can do now is pray.” The only thing? How about the most important thing and the thing that should top our list? Prayer is powerful. It is effective. And it’s our way of communicating with the One who created us and wants a relationship with us. When times get tough – and they will – remember that prayer is your most important tool.

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God’s Word never changes. In any given day, especially in our quick-as-the-blink-of-an-eye culture, things change. Technology, the weather, fashion, styles, etc. But God’s Word is steadfast and never changes. We, as a culture, can try all we want to make God’s Word squeeze into our man-made box, but it will be futile. We should instead, with the help of the Holy Spirit, live as He commands by learning and living by the precious and timeless words of Scripture. The Bible is the only Truth, and is by what we need to measure everything else.

Give to God the unimportant things in your life, the important things in your life, and everything in between. Your future plans? Give it to the Lord. Your future husband? Give it to God. Surrender your life to Him and allow Him to use you for His glory. And He will.

Jeremiah 29 11

Aim to please only One. Live your life to please the One who matters. And everything else will fall into place.


Before you go, check out these other posts:

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4 ways to reconnect with your spouse

7 ways to encourage your children

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10 things to remember during the corona virus pandemic

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How are we doing today with all the latest news of the pandemic? I was thinking today about some encouraging things to remember as we navigate this crazy time in our nation’s history.
I came up with the following list:

Decide who and/or what is steering you. Yesterday, my teen daughters and I went for a bike ride. As we started on mile nine on a gravel road, my youngest hit a bump and her handlebars were knocked loose. Now, instead of being able to rely on her handlebars to steer her where she wanted to go, they went one way and her front tire went the other.

Who is steering you? Where is your focus?

The second we take our eyes off our Savior, we’re prone to succumb to fear, anxiety, worry, and depression over the current situation. If our focus is on the worldly events, suddenly things seem impossible to overcome. Instead, let’s fix our eyes on the author and the perfecter of our faith (Hebrews 12:2). Let Jesus steer your life. He will never leave you, nor forsake you. (Hebrews 13:5).

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Persevere. There is a certain challenging part of our bike ride course that I especially love. Our family has nicknamed it “Hairpin Curve.” It’s a sharp curve, then a downhill sprint, followed by a steep uphill climb. My goal is to make it to the top of this steep hill while still in the saddle. Nine times out of ten, I achieve that goal. Heart pounding, quads burning, I keep my focus on what lies in front of me at the top of that hill (a quick break before I decide to tackle the whole thing again!) If I give up, my wheels will spin on the loose gravel, rendering me helpless to push through to the top without climbing off my bike.

Even though things can seemingly become bleak with the Covid-19 lurking around every corner, we must persevere through this pandemic. We can’t give up.

Reach out. This is a difficult time for many. (For those of us extroverts the struggle is real!) Silliness aside, don’t ever assume someone is fine. People who live alone are struggling with loneliness. Moms are trying to figure out how to keep their children entertained while being “cooped up.” (Join me in the near future for my blog post about 55 activities to keep kids entertained during the pandemic). Some people are struggling with keeping their jobs and paying the bills. Still others are facing serious health issues such as cancer. Reach out and check on family, friends, the people you know from church, work, and social media. Let them know you care.

Improvise. I remember watching as my brother devised a way to do his chore of hauling fireplace logs on his three-wheeled, low to the ground, pedal-powered motorcycle toy. He even figured out a way to do “spin outs” on our driveway (with impressive skid marks) without losing his load. Luke may not have especially enjoyed hauling in those logs by hand, but with his improvisation, suddenly it no longer felt like a chore.

While many things have changed due to the Corona virus, we can and need to improvise the best we can. Online church would not be the first choice for many, however, what an amazing way to use technology to continue to meet together and glean from our pastors the wisdom God calls them to impart. How phenomenal is it that we can sit in our living rooms and hear the word of God preached to us from anywhere in the world?

Have gratitude. We can certainly find a million and five things to complain about in times like these. Instead, let’s focus on being grateful. Can you breathe? Do you have someone who cares about you? Do you have a loving spouse? Great kids? Do you have food? Clean water to drink? Are you healthy? Can your eyes behold the beauty of the blooming trees or the falling snow? Do you have a voice that can encourage others? Make a list of all the things, from “small” to big for which you are grateful. It won’t take long to see that the thankfulness outweighs the complaints.

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Intercede for others. What a wonderful opportunity to be able to intercede for others! What an amazing way to lift up the prayer requests of others to our Lord. Of course praying for our loved ones and friends is important. But how about even praying for random people? (Any neighborhood prayer walkers among us?)

Keep your mind and body active. It’s easy to sit around all day and lament the happenings of the world around us. Instead, let’s keep our mind and body active. Put together a puzzle, play board games, do crossword puzzles, even coloring has made a comeback in recent years.

In addition, focus on getting at least a half hour of physical exercise every day (please check with your doctor before starting any new exercise program). Even walking around your house or up and down the stairs counts.

Set goals and plans for each day. Keep a list of your goals for each day and cross them off as you tackle them.

Find the funny.  Reminisce with your family or friends (this can be done in person if you live with your family, via Skype, phone calls, instant messaging, or texts) of all the funny times you remember. Watch a humorous movie or play a silly board game.

Focus on the good. Check out the headlines right now and it’s a recipe for despair. Instead of focusing on (and even reading!) the negative, let’s focus on the good.

There is so much good news if only we are willing to open our eyes to see it. There are so many kind people if only we are willing to acknowledge them.

Philippians 4 4 (2)

Spend time with Him. Most importantly, spend time with the Lord. Get to know Him. Read His Word. Rekindle your relationship with Him. Rediscover the One who gave His very life for you.

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the importance of perseverance

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Life is not easy. It’s full of challenges, and when we face those challenges, we have a choice. Do we stick with it and persevere? Or do we give up?

My mom has recently been confined to a wheelchair. She struggles with severe osteoporosis, fibromyalgia, scleroderma, a shoulder injury that has never properly healed, a herniated disc in her back, and celiac disease. She faces chronic pain. Everyday. All day. Without relief.

In other words, the pain and debilitating illness she faces are nearly unbearable.

Some days it feels like too much.

But she perseveres. And no, she won’t tell you that it’s easy or that she doesn’t struggle at times.

Chronic illness.

A difficult boss.

A challenging relative.

The effort to lose weight for health reasons.

The challenge to bring up your grades.

Marriage struggles.

Working two jobs to afford basic necessities for your family.

Being a caregiver.

Trying to move on after a death or divorce.

Struggling with isolation and loneliness.

Job loss and mounting bills.

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All of the above can bring about difficult life situations where it’s easy to give up and give in.

The Apostle Paul went through many trials and hardships while persevering for the Gospel. Missionaries today persist in bringing the Truth to people who may never otherwise hear the Good News of eternal life through Jesus Christ, even though some risk their lives doing so.

No matter what issue we face, we have hope of endurance.

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Yet, enduring and running the race well is not easy. Situations out of our control threaten to bring us down with no hope in sight.

How do we persevere when life gets turbulent, topsy-turvy, and off-track?

By keeping our eyes on Jesus. The second we take our eyes off of Him, as Peter did in Matthew 14:30-31, we sink.

By realizing that He knows the “big picture”. How it starts, the middle, and the ending. Remember that we see the tiny hand-held phone screen of life, while God sees an enormous big-screen TV. Or to look at it a different way, we see one word in an entire book, while He sees the entire book – every word, sentence, paragraph, and chapter.

By remembering that even in times of hardship, He loves us and will never leave us. Ever.

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By knowing that He is a great listener…and never sleeps. His “line” is open 24/7/365, no matter what.

By being assured that He’s got this and was not caught off guard. This past year did not catch Him off-guard or unprepared. On the contrary, God knows all from the beginning of time to the end of time. He’s never uninformed, unconcerned, or oblivious to the trials we face.

By spending time in constant prayer, giving thanks for all He has done, seeking His will for your life, and laying down prayer requests. These are tantamount to a close relationship with Him. In 1 Thessalonians 5:17, we are told to pray without ceasing. If there is one thing that has become more prominent in recent days days, it could perhaps be said that praying is at an all-time high.

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By reading God’s Word and learning about the faithful ones of the Bible who persevered. To know we are not alone in our difficulties gives us hope and courage.

By continuing to move forward…even if you feel like you’re constantly going backwards. John Wayne said it well when he said that “Courage is being scared to death but saddling up anyway”.

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By making sure you have a good support system. This can be a loving spouse and children, caring friends, and a faithful church body.

By being encouraged by listening to uplifting Christian music. The quickest way to fall into a slump is to surround yourself with negativity, darkness, and despair. What we watch, listen to, and partake in affects our mood.

By facing each day one step at a time. Set small and realistic goals.

Life is not easy. Everyone has a struggle, or multiple struggles, that they face on a daily or on an ongoing basis. But with faith in God and perseverance, we can face our hardships head-on and emerge victorious.