Posted in devotionals, Growing in the Lord, miscellaneous how-to, Miscellanous how-to, what to do when series

what to do when it’s difficult to love others

Difficult coworker? Challenging neighbor? Formidable boss? Exhausting family member? Hurtful “friend”?

Relationships can be tough. God’s Word tells us to love others. To show grace. Extend mercy. But putting it into action can be difficult, if not impossible at times.

What can we do when it’s difficult to love others?

Pray for them. Yes, it may sound cliche, and sometimes we use the term flippantly. But prayer is powerful. God tells us to pray for our enemies, for those who are unkind, and for those we find most arduous to deal with. We’ve all found ourselves in a place where the last thing we want to do is pray for those who have hurt us or those who add a heavy dose of stress to our lives.

But prayer works. We can pray to see the difficult person how God sees them—through His eyes. And, if they don’t yet know Him, we can pray for their Salvation or spiritual progress.

Commit to praying for the unlovable person consistently for thirty days. And then another thirty days, knowing God hears your prayers.

Pray for wisdom in dealing with the person in a Christlike manner. In most cases, there is no way we can do this on our own. But we serve a gracious God who promises us wisdom when we ask for it.

Don’t seek out conflict with this individual. In other words, don’t cause strife.

On that note, sometimes even after attempting to handle an issue with a difficult person in a Biblical manner (Matthew 18:15-17), it is not resolved. In some cases, our best course of action is to keep our distance, to remain respectful when we see the person, but not to seek them out.

Forgive. If someone has wronged us, forgiveness can be the last thing we want to do. In many, if not most cases, forgiveness, especially if the conflict has been especially painful, can only be done with the help of the Holy Spirit. Seek His help to forgive.

Don’t seek revenge, however tempting it may be. God tells us in His Word to not take revenge (Romans 12:19) and not to repay evil with evil.

People aren’t easy to love. We are all sinful and all mistreat others at times. Dealing with relational conflicts can be grueling and stressful. But by leaning on our Lord Jesus Christ and seeking Him, He will provide the guidance we need to deal with the difficult people in our lives.

*Please note that if you are being abused in any way, please seek help immediately.


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10 Bible verses to start off your day

10 verses morning

I am super excited to be starting a new series on my blog called The Scripture Series. I’ll be taking a journey through God’s Word and sharing Bible verses on a variety of topics.

Our first in the series is 10 Bible verses to start off your day. Those first precious moments in the morning that we spend with the Lord, wrapped in His embrace as we pray about the day and turn it over to Him, set the stage for the next 24 hours.

Thank you for joining me for this new series. Be blessed!

 

Psalm 118 24

This is the day the Lord has made; we will rejoice and be glad in it. ~ Psalm 118:24

 

Lamentations 3_22-23

His mercies are new every morning. ~ Lamentations 3:22-23

 

Philippians 4 13

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. ~ Philippians 4:13

 

Romans 8 31bIf God is for us, who can be against us? ~ Romans 8:31b

 

2 TimothyFor God did not give us a spirit of fear, but of power and love and self-control. ~ 2 Timothy 1:7

 

Ephesians 6 11

Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. ~ Ephesians 6:11

 

Psalm 19 14

Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer. ~ Psalm 19:14

 

James 1 5

If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given to him. ~ James 1:5

 

Matthew 11 28

Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. ~ Matthew 11:28

 

Psalm 143 8

Let me hear in the morning of your steadfast love, for in you I trust. Make me know the way I should go, for to you I lift up my soul. ~ Psalm 143:8

 

10 morning verses summary

 

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